Who am I? Discover your true purpose

Knowing who you REALLY are, and being able to answer that question in an informed and honest way is the key to fulfillment and inner peace.


We live in a society that is constantly clamoring to tell us who we ‘should be’ what we ‘should aspire to’, what stereotype or expectation ‘we should emulate’ that will build our self-esteem and enable us to ‘fit in’.

There are so many issues, inward and outward that impact our perceptions of ourselves – it can be like a minefield. Many do not do the inner work required to reveal who they really are, but have been carried away on the tide of expectation, and the mask of ‘acceptance’.

It is so easy to get sucked into this, believing you should fulfill trusted people and society’s expectations of yourself, to cement your belonging to a social group, circle or even within your family.

But, until this is challenged and brought under microscopic introspection, you will never be truly happy trying to morph into what you think you should be, rather than working on discovering who you really are and your unique gifts and talents that will make the biggest difference to your fulfilment, confidence, inner peace and impact on the world around you.

We are all unique and were not created to fit specific pre-existing molds. To fulfill our truest expression of ourselves, we must be in tune with our true motivations and values and be able to freely express our talents without fear of rejection. This place, is the springboard place to achieve the greatest success.

In my experience of coaching women on various issues there is a common theme around identity. Key questions that have remained unanswered before the coaching journey are significant contributors to personal identity crises that have hindered fulfilling their true potential and being truly satisfied:

  • Who am I?
  • Whose expectations am I fulfilling?
  • What are my unique skills and talents?
  • Have I given myself permission to use them?
  • Have I even given them recognition or credibility?
  • What DO I really want? (Opposed to ‘what SHOULD I really want?’)


Oprah puts rather eloquently in this short clip (click link below), the importance of knowing who you really are to fulfil your true purpose.

Oprah: These are the 3 Rules of Life that Oprah Swears by


“Ask yourself, Who am I? Not the roles you play in your family and career, but the bigger question Who am I? What do I want? I don’t just want to be successful in the world, I want to fulfill the highest truest expression of myself as a human being. You must have some kind of vision for your life, even if you don’t have a plan, you have to have a direction on which you choose to go, you must be in the driving seat of life, or life will drive you.” (Oprah)

If you are interested in pursing this theme further, the links here will give greater insight and practical exercises to help uncover your true identity.

Professional coach, Suzanne Simmons-Lewis helps her clients clarify and achieve their true purpose and ambitions in their careers and businesses, drawing out their unique talents. She inspires, supports and challenges clients in their journey to making their long-held dreams an exciting reality.



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